With this ring...


Justin and I recently celebrated 10 mostly lovely years together. (I just can’t bring myself to say it without “mostly”. That would be a lie. We have had some tremendous unlovely times.  Like the time he so inconsiderately ate the last honey bun when I was pregnant.) Anyhoo, it was a milestone, and so, as with various other monumental events of your lifetime you begin to take a look back, to reminisce.

A little over ten years ago, I set out to purchase a wedding band for my soon-to-be husband. And by “set out to purchase” I mean “stop by a store while I’m out shopping for myself”.  I ran into a James Avery retailer and picked up what I thought would be a perfect ring for a man who would most likely lose it in a few short months anyway.

Fast forward to the honeymoon… I’m taking a peaceful bath at a remote cabin and my new spouse yells from the other room, “What do you know?” 

After I am abruptly awakened from my tranquility in the tub and can grasp what he has asked, I reply, “What?”

He says, “What do you know?” Like I am supposed to have any idea about what the heck he is inquiring or what the heck “I know”.

Appropriately I shout, “What do you mean? What do I know?!?!”

He responds, “My ring says ”I know” inside…you bought me a USED ring???”

I cannot document the thoughts going through my mind at the time. It was a mere 10 seconds before I was out of the tub, wrapped in a towel, and ready to investigate this ring.  Sure enough, it had been engraved with the two simple words, “I know”.  I hadn’t even noticed! Shining new wife moment numero uno!  

As you might imagine, that man I married wouldn’t let me return it.  He insisted on keeping the “used” ring, because of the interesting story that went along with it…and probably a reminder to the both of us that I had once been wrong. Yep…once.

Funny thing is I didn’t know a durn thing back then. Not one little iota of what I was getting into and how my life would change.  At 19, I had no life experience, no wisdom and for sure no “knowledge”. The only thing I knew was how much I loved that man and our family, and I believe that little bit has kept us together this long. (Although honey-bun-stealing-day was questionable.) 

He went on to lose that beloved keepsake in a rodeo a few years later.  Last week, for our anniversary I got him another wedding band (one of which I put a teensy bit more thought into this go ‘round).  On the inside, this time, he found the words, “I still know”.

The way I figure it, I’ve got a lot more to learn, but “I KNOW” so much more from where I am now. That is…FROM THIS SIDE OF THIRTY.